All of us want to live in peace. But for those of us lugging around private regrets about abortions, peace may seem hard to find. We’ve been told we “shouldn’t” regret our choices. Yet, sometimes, we do.
We’d probably be surprised to discover how many people we pass on the street are carrying the same mixed feelings about past abortions. Most of us think we’re the only ones dragging all that weight. We see celebrities “celebrating” abortions and we figure there must be something wrong with us.
But that’s a lie. Abortion regret is real. And people who experience it are very normal.
Breaking free from regret—especially abortion regret—can be tough. Choosing abortion probably seemed right, or at least necessary, at the time.
So why don’t we feel okay with it now?
Emotions surrounding abortion can be complicated. Early on we may have felt a sense of relief or just numbness. Other times we’ve felt simmering frustration over being given no other choice. We may fear dredging up old memories of trauma. Perhaps we’re angry that our choices didn’t produce the results we hoped for.Often, we’ve tried convincing ourselves we’re okay with our past abortions. Then years later something triggers us, and regret surfaces. We realize we’re not as healed and peaceful as we thought.
Suppressed feelings about abortions have a way of crawling around inside us, creating problems. They can damage our present relationships and even our mental and physical health. We might ignore those problems for a while. But eventually we need to recognize their cause and do something positive to bring healing and find peace.
But what can we do?
Deal. With. It.
Seek a Safe Place with a Safe Person
If we really want healing, regrets we’ve kept buried in darkness need to be laid out in the light. But that isn’t going to happen just anywhere.
These are our hearts we’re talking about. Hearts that are hurting and tender. They need protecting. So if we’re going to pull out bits of our painful past, we need to be in a safe place alongside someone we can trust.
Pregnancy center advocates are caring individuals equipped with loving compassion and training we can trust to give us that safe place. They don’t judge. They listen, they care, and they offer truth we can use to move forward into freedom.
When we’re looking for a confidential, safe, and honest environment to process our abortion regrets, a pregnancy center is the kind of place we need. Their caring staff understands the wide range of experiences that lead to and result from abortion.
They also have a network of resources to provide additional support when we need it.
Choices Pregnancy Center Cares
No one should have to carry regrets around forever. Not when there is healing and peace and freedom available.
Asking someone for help dealing with abortions in our past can be difficult. But reaching out to an advocate at Choices Pregnancy Center doesn’t have to be. In fact, it can be the first big step toward finding healing and peace forever.
Take that step today. Call or text 507-637-2534 and ask about meeting with an advocate. Her services are all free.
So schedule that first visit with an advocate and learn how the healing process could look for you. Start down the road to peace now.
We’re here for you in both Redwood Falls and Marshall, MN.