When you’re unexpectedly pregnant, it may feel like the ground is collapsing underneath your feet. You may have an idea of what pregnancy option you’d like, or you may not know where to start.
Remember that this decision is in your hands. If you feel pressured to choose abortion or another option, know that you have rights. No one can legally coerce you into making a decision that isn’t right for you. With the proper support, you decide which option is best. And you have two options besides abortion: adoption and parenting.
Could I Be a Good Parent?
Parenting can be a tremendous challenge, especially if you aren’t sure what support you need. Perhaps you watched others struggle with parenting, or you’ll be a single mother and wondering how you’ll make ends meet.
This option is difficult; any parent will tell you there will be hard days. But parenting brings joy as you discover a love you never knew existed. Ask yourself what you’ll need (and what you currently have) to be a good parent. Do you have a strong support system? Are you financially stable? Will you be able to provide a safe environment for a child?
It may help to share your concerns with current parents. Ask them what tools they found especially helpful. Your local pregnancy center can connect you with the support, resources, and assistance programs you need. Choices Pregnancy Center offers a place to talk and an Earn While You Learn program, which allows you to acquire needed baby items while taking pregnancy and parenting classes.
Although parenting may seem impossible right now, it can become a reality. You have people in your corner who are ready and willing to help you be successful.
How Could Adoption Be the Right Option?
Though it can be emotionally challenging, adoption gives women peace of mind knowing that the child is in a stable, loving home. They can choose the adoptive family best suited to their child’s needs. When you choose adoption, you have the opportunity to be in control.
There are three main adoption plans available to birthmothers:
- Open adoption: This plan allows the woman to form a relationship with the child and adoptive family. She has a say in the adoption process and can communicate with the family via letters, phone calls, or regular visits.
- Semi-open adoption: Semi-open adoption allows for communication conducted through a third party, like an adoption attorney or agency.
- Closed adoption: The most private option, all identifying records are sealed. The woman remains anonymous, and no contact occurs with the adoptive family.
One of these options may work for you. Perhaps you want the child to grow up knowing they have a birthmother who wanted the best for them. Or you’d like your information to remain confidential. Whichever option you choose, know you are making a brave and selfless decision.
Choices Pregnancy Center is here to help you find a reputable licensed adoption agency and answer your questions about this decision. We’re here to support you.
I’m Pregnant. What’s Next?
When you learn you’re pregnant, come to Choices Pregnancy Center. We’ll provide a free ultrasound so that you can learn essential pregnancy details and protect your health. We also offer free and confidential options consultations performed by our client advocates.
You have options. Contact us today to find out what we can do for you.