For decades people have described adoption with words like “giving your child up” or “putting your child up” for adoption. It’s as if they think a mother who makes an adoption plan is just abandoning her child or displaying him for sale! If you’re a pregnant woman in a difficult situation, don’t let those old-fashioned …

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Christmas memories . . . What are yours like? Do you think of caroling and decorating the tree? Of building snowmen and going sledding? Of stringing popcorn and baking cookies? Do your memories include pictures that dim the sparkle of the season? Does the Ghost of Christmas Past dredge up memories of too much drinking, …

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My child entered the world like a little angel: sweet, adorable, and innocent. What a shock it was when I had to start telling him, “No!” “No, don’t bite the breast that feeds you.” “No, you shouldn’t put that thing in your mouth.” “No, don’t lick the electrical outlet.” Frankly, saying “no” gets tiring, doesn’t …

Words Your Child Needs from You, Part III: “No” Read More »

Father’s Day was tough when I was a single mom.  A dark, menacing voice kept taunting me, “You’re alone. Your boy has no man around. You know all those statistics on how fatherless kids turn out?  They’re going to happen to your son.” Maybe it was good for me to be reminded: a single mother …

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